You have to be will it lead you to the way.
Nobody know your soul mate will get along with your parents or not as long as they never meet each other. As far as i know i have some pain on my neck just because my partner can not get along with my mom.
I do not like the middle situation because i turn myself to be a sandwich standing in the dilemma atmosphere.I want to be a good son and good husband in the same time.A kind of conflict between Mother in laws and daughter in laws happened often and it is not stop only anger but some case no way to turn their face to each other again.
In my opinion kids especially son for mother they like precious thing and after spending 20 years or more than period with them. It is really hard for Moms to let their kids go to the another girl. Some case sin Italy have a controversial about this situation too. Nowadays Italian society still have a lot home boy who are 30 year olds up and still living with their mother.When they have to decide about my mother or my partner who is more important.That is so hard to decide right..
However I hope negotiation and understanding will gradually change a nightmare situation and finally everybody can get along with for the last.